Setting Healthy Boundaries
It feels like you do everything.
Somehow, you always seem to make sure others are cared for before taking care of yourself.
From taking on that extra project at work, listening to your friend vent about their long day, or lending money to the family member who you know won’t pay you back, you still do it anyway with little in return.
“I’m a giving person, and I enjoy helping others” is the message you tell yourself to feel better about it.
But deep down, you know it would be nice to say “no” sometimes.
It’s hard to say “no.”
As the go-to person in your life, it feels close to impossible to say “no.” And there’s a reason for that.
A part of you feels responsible for other people’s well-being and doesn’t like letting other people down.
Concern for others isn’t necessarily a bad thing. However, when you allow too many things to take a piece of you, it becomes draining, frustrating, and detrimental to your sense of self.
There’s another part of you that doesn’t want to appear rude or stuck up, which results in saying yes or staying silent when you’d much rather say otherwise.
Eventually, enough is enough – and NO becomes the answer.
When it finally hits you that you’re tired of everyone having frequent access to your time and energy, this is when the urge to reclaim your life becomes essential.
Feeling this urge shows that it is time to set boundaries.
The next question is, how do you suddenly start setting boundaries after never doing it for all this time?
Here is how to begin setting boundaries.
Setting boundaries can feel like an intimidating task because you don’t know how people will respond to it and how people will perceive you afterward.
This is a normal part of the process that will help highlight who and what deserves your time and attention.
Our work together will help you identify the areas of your life that constantly pull on you and where you want to regain control. Identifying these areas will then guide us in creating personalized strategies to set those boundaries in a way that makes you feel confident.
From there, it’s all about consistency. With the strategies we develop and the confidence you’ll gain, you’ll gradually get your life back with work, family, and relationships. You will become the captain of your happiness and well-being – at last.
I’m ready to help!
You’ve shown countless times that you can do a lot, but setting boundaries that provide time for you is essential.
If you’re ready to become more intentional about where you’re spending your time and energy and set better boundaries to put your needs first, then let’s talk!